By Branden Lee
Many gay men suffer from loneliness because they fear and have trouble connecting with other gays. If you’re having trouble finding other gays to connect with, here are some tips for where you can find new gay friends.
Dating apps are what you make of them. You can use them for a lot more than finding dates or one-night stands. Many people find jobs or friends using apps such as Grindr, Jack’d, Tinder, etc. Message guys based off of what their profile says and not what their picture looks like. Starting a convo based on your common interests is a great way to initiate a potential friendship.
Gay clubs are also more than just gathering spots to get wasted and find guys to go home with. Muster up the courage to approach someone to simply start a conversation. If you’re alone and they’re also alone, that’s a great way to connect since no one wants to be at the club alone. Most people at the club by themselves are desperately hoping someone will approach them to talk, so they feel less awkward. If you don’t want to be lonely, make the first move and make a new friend.
With all the hashtags, likes, and following going on social media it’s easier than ever to connect with others. Search for guys in your city, or go down the rabbit hole of liking pics based on hashtags, which leads you to a dozen guys different pages. Slide into someone’s DMs and get the conversation flowing. Many gay men do suffer from narcissism thinking anyone messaging them must be hitting on them, but if you find someone that’s friendly and not cocky, you could end up finding a great new friendship from Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and so on.
No one ever wants to be the only homo in the office, or whatever environment you work in. Chances are you aren’t the only gay in the workplace. Sniff out the others by any means necessary. Sometimes you can find them as soon as you turn on Grindr. Connect. Work is so much more fun when you have a friend, and it’s easier to connect with friends you have something in common with. Like being the only gays in the workplace.
Branden Lee is a writer and actor living in Atlanta. Follow Branden on Twitter and Instagram @Brandeness. Watch Branden on his YouTube channel SexxxPerTease.