When your man drags out going back to school on your dime, or your booty boy won’t do anything but anal, it’s time for a talk with Hey Daddy.
I agreed to support my boyfriend temporarily, but now it’s been a long time, and I want him pulling his weight.
When he decided to go back to school, I happily took on extra hours. He finished with honors, but he’s been dicking around for over a year working for $300 a month at the college while he finishes his dissertation. Our finances are deteriorating rapidly.
He says he’s looking for a better job, but throws a fit if I bring it up too often. He threatens to move out, and I’m afraid of losing my investment in him and us. I was proud when he went back to school, but now I hold it against him.
Doesn’t Only Owe Repayment, Makes A Threat
It’s exhausting to be used. You’ve both gotten used to the arrangement, and while you feel the short end of the stick, he’s quite comfortable with the long end.
But make no mistake: You do have an arrangement. Until a new agreement is hashed out, you bear equal responsibility for keeping it the way it is – or changing it.
What are you really afraid of here? Your relationship? He’s not going anywhere on that salary. The sound of raising your voice? Let him have it if talking calmly isn’t working.
He’s going to do what you let him. Make some declarations, even ultimatums. You’ll both be liberated and can discuss moving forward, or you’ll see his true colors and can make moves from there.
The guy I’m dating is all about giving up the booty. Like, all the time. He’s butt up or heels in the air the moment I reach for my zipper. That’s all fine and good, but I am obsessed with blowjobs. How can I get him to simmer down long enough to give me mine the want?
Booty Limits & Obstructs Way to Mouth Endings
Dear BLOW ME:
If you haven’t sensed the theme of this week’s column, your letter landed here because you need to give your guy his next dose of D with a side of real talk. Bluntly tell him you want a trade for some time on your thing for time on his thing. The longer you wait, the longer before it’s resolved.
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